The Tao of Edge

(Being Present and in the Moment)

Being present is consciousness liberated from thought forms.
It is total freedom from the known...
The masks are off!

A large component of natural game is being able to turn off the voice in your head (i.e. monologue /mental noise). This voice complains, comments, likes, dislikes, judges and compares. It is the voice which talks you out of approaching women or makes you nervous and persuades you to leave a conversation early. This mindset makes a guy see the present through the eyes of the past or imagine negative outcomes in the future. This is the Tao. And this has been particularly key to my progress.

Have no pick-up lines or routines in your mind! In my best assessment, people who believe they fundamentally lack something and need to compensate with 'material' or ‘lines’ will not find understanding this easy at all.

I learned that whenever you are able to observe and watch your mind, you are no longer trapped inside it. The moment you realise you have not been present, you become present. But the instant your conscious attention sinks below a certain level or the outer world intrudes, thought rushes in. The words crawl in, the stillness is lost and you have a snap moment! You are back to being in a zombified state. This is best exemplified I believe after sex, where the physical sensations/orgasms are finished by a CLICK moment.

This energy can be tapped into in pick-up. Approach anxiety or quick ejection from talking to a hot babe is caused by the same thing; by not being in the moment. Unfortunately sometimes we start to talk ourselves out of approaching or start to leave. So thought creates an interval which is time and time waits for no one. All you have to do is take action before you can think of a way to fuck it up...

In this instance if you are thinking when you want to approach a woman, you usually do one of 3 things:


1) Think about all the times you've been rejected- Past
(Every emotional pain leaves behind a residue of pain that lives on in you. Anything can trigger it, even an innocent remark)

2) Think about how it is going to go with ‘mental movies’ - Future
(Avoid. The quality of your consciousness at this moment is what shapes the future and usually the future is a replica of the past/present)

3) Your body freezes, your heart pumps very hard, you feel weak in your knees etc.
(These are the physical sensations which everyone can relate to in some manner when thinking about it too hard)



The above can be avoided by entering the present from wherever you are. As long as you are in a state of intense presence, you are free of thought. You are still, yet highly alert. You have full access to the best parts of your personality and your sub communication will take care of everything. If you can just become intensely conscious of the present moment and find the off button, you will find stillness and peacefulness to break through the approach. This is natural game in full force. It is true relationship.

Such 'presence’ is like being trapped with a poisonous snake in a small room; you watch its every movement, you are very, very sensitive to the slightest sound and hiss it makes. You are aware of the silent presence of each thing and to the danger but there is no new thought. Such a state of attention is total energy; in such awareness the totality of yourself is revealed in an instant.

This does astonishing things for your ability to relate to other people and socialise comfortably. It will be reflected in your body language; women can see from your pupils that you didn’t retract into your head. All people just want to be on the receiving end of this authentic communication.


Pulp Fiction Example:

Then the first of an uncomfortable silence happens.

MIA
Don't you hate that?

VINCENT
What?

MIA
Uncomfortable silences. Why do we
feel it's necessary to yak about
bullshit in order to be
comfortable?

VINCENT
I don't know.

MIA
That's when you know you found
somebody special. When you can
just shut the fuck up for a minute,
and comfortably share silence.


There is a brief and elusive glimpse of ‘no mind’ whenever there is a gap in the stream of mind. Think of a time with someone when there is an emotionally tense moment – e.g. after an argument or after a conversation where you reveal something particularly vulnerable about yourself. There is moment of electricity, followed by a silence, where you both look at each other. You see each other in a different light and share a rare form of communication. There are no longer 2 minds interacting with each other. There is a flash of insight which leads to the destruction of all the prejudices and images you created which block the true relationship.

If you really want to exercise these muscles and become present, ask yourself questions when reading this. Do I really know the people I am talking to? What is really going on and what is this person really like? E.g. does my congressman secretly get whipped by his mistress?

The easiest way to get out of your head is to get into someone else’s. I suggest that the way out of your head and into the moment is to place all of your attention on the other person. In order to un-stifle yourself - See yourself in all people..

The only peace you find in an interaction with a woman is the peace you bring with you.

Inner Game is King.

Michael - NYC
~THE EDGE

They All Want To Be Porn Stars (explicit)

A World Class inner game post from my friend of 6 years Daniel Cardenas off The London Seduction Society. Re-produced with kind permission:

There are only two fears you are born with:

Fear of loud sounds
Fear of falling

Somewhere down the line, someone screwed a few of you over and told you that you have to be scared of women. There is no need to be scared. I’m going to let you in on a secret:

All girls want to be porn stars. That’s right they are all little filth pots that want to get down and dirty. I hate to have to be the one to break it to you but your old dear loves nothing more than getting bent over and slipped a hard one. It is the same with every girl you meet- she wants to get bent over. Loves it.

But they don’t want to be the instigator of the filth. No girl wants to be viewed as a slut or dirtier than you. Therefore they have to be led through the process. We already know this. They must be led from the moment you meet them and even in your bedroom, because they do not want to feel like the pervert. So have you got to assume that role for them, in the same way that they want to be seduced rather than thinking they picked you up. Women are passive in all aspects of the mating ritual. It is rare that girls will run up to you and say “Here is my number, take me out and fuck me on the 1st date”. They are all hardwired this way.

Surprisingly, you’ll find it is very common for women to have “rape fantasies” (Read “My Secret Garden” if you don’t believe me). What does that mean? All chicks are mad? No, it is an extension of their passive nature; this is the extreme form of being led, the complete submission of control. It is the extension and sexual manifestation of their social programming, i.e. the submissive and passive role of the female in sexual encounters.

Now we know girls are filthy and want to be dominated how do we go about capitalising on this?Build a platform for filth. They play up to it. The idea is to create an atmosphere through sexual stories (most of which may not be about you) that convey that no matter how dirty she is, it is nothing to what you have seen. This is your reality. A stage has now been created for her to perform on, to be extremely sexual and filthy.

Has this tactic ever made me look like a pervert and driven the girl away? On the contrary, the girl feels less inhibited and has an outlet for all her sexual fantasies because no matter what she says or does, it does not beat anything I have said or done. However, being highly sexual and blasé about your experiences is not to be confused with being a sleaze. That is why stories are the best way to approach this. Never be a salivating pervert.

All the deviant shit I have done, I have never been told “You sick bastard, don’t you ever come near me again with that”. In fact the opposite- “Oh that was so naughty/dirty, so much fun”.I gave a facial to my one of my GF’s the other week- she was smiling ear to ear after. This girl comes across as so sweet innocent; you would think butter wouldn’t melt in her mouth, let alone my nuts melting on her face. You would be surprised by the difference in what they really want and what they tell you they want.

Your ability to dominate is going to be determined by your mindset. So in this instance (using this frame), I am convinced that the girl wants to be experience a spontaneous sexual encounter because all girls do. She wants me to take her home and do all the dirty she stuff she fantasises about, but her chump boyfriend is too timid to do. She needs this fuck more than I do. As far as I am convinced it is an interview- make me want to fuck you and fulfil those fantasies for you. You will squirt cum and remember me forever.

Do not confuse any of this for a lack of respect. Respect and trust play a massive part in all of this- women only submit themselves to men that they can trust. There is nothing more intimate for a woman than a man physically entering them.The reason I do well is because I am effectively a sheep on wolves clothing, in that I am quite boyish in my looks and comes across as very sweet and respectful (I shit you not, I get told this by every woman I meet!). However, when I need to I switch into captain caveman I do. I bring out my club, bash them over the head, drag them to my cave and fuck their brains out.

Build trust, show you respect her. Then once you have trust – caveman and lead.Why? Because she wants you to.But don’t take it to the other extreme and display too much respect and be afraid to dominate because you have placed her on a pedestal. Kick that girl off her pedestal and bend her over it. Remember you are the fucking prize and doing her a favour.Become an outlet for her fantasies. By doing so I maintain control, I never supplicate- she is a porn star dying for the bang, she needs me to carry out these fantasies.Literally as I am writing this I just received this message_“I just love how naughty u look u have no idea how much I get turned on just thinking about how cheeky your smile is. It makes you feel like you can do anything to me at anytime” I have not told you this to brag but to illustrate the point I am making. By having the frame that she wants to be a porn star but needs to be led, I assume the dominant role in order to lead her to that place where she feels comfortable and horny enough to have anything done to her at anytime.

Conclusion: I am not encouraging you to up the nastiness of your bedroom activities (however, it is more fun). I am trying to illustrate the point that all girls want to be treated like porn stars. They want to be seen as sexual beings that turn you on and make you want to tear her clothes off. They are just as filth as you and I. But you have to lead her. This is the same for the initial pick up. From the moment you meet her, you have to understand that she wants to be dominated. She will not offer herself to you as a sacrifice to the Gods.

We have to make the approach
We have to lead the conversation
We have to lead her home
We have to make the first move
We have to dominate and up the stakes in the bedroom

Lead her through the conversation, lead her to your bedroom; lead her in your bedroom. Grow some balls, bend her over. She wants it- deep and hardWhy not? Scared of blowing it? Blow what? Captain Caveman her for fucks sake, hit her on the head with your club and take her back to your cave. Blowing it means getting nothing- if you don’t try it on you will always get no pussy and that is blowing it. Always finish what you start. If you don’t shoot you can’t score goals.

Women want to be picked up and are socially/genetically/evolutionary (you choose) programmed to be submissive in the mating ritual; therefore you have to initiate control of the situation. In other words BE A MAN ABOUT IT!

If you don’t close her she will go home thinking about you and wondering why you didn’t make a move! Probably thinking that she did something wrong or that you did not find her attractive.

Obsession

Below is a transcript of an actual series of emails that I recieved last year that went unanswered.. The Game became a dangerous obsession for a girl I barely knew but became obsessed about me.

I have posted this because I would like to know more about the mindset that goes through this person. Let me know, if you have any thoughts on it.

February 4 at 9:23pm
Thanks for ignoring me one million times. I know you don’t have to answer me, I know you don’t owe me anything, but just be a little bit kind. Don’t you think it’s strange you’re still in my brain? I do. Don’t you want to be rid of the strangeness? Doesn’t it creep you out? Isn’t it weird? All you need to type is “get over me”. That’s all I need to hear. I need peace in my brain.
Sara.

February 15 at 9:06pm
oh. i thought you were waiting til valentine's day to tell me that you love me. it's ok, you can still do it now if you want.

February 20 at 5:35pm
i want to have your children. just think how good looking they would be with both of our looks combined. so what do you think? good idea/bad idea?

February 21 at 3:03pm
well done for being in new york, be careful not get to get shot or mugged.
i can't believe you erased those special memories you and i had together, like they never happened. there is one simple way to make me go away, so stop being an arsehole and do it. if you're as deep and philosophical as you claim to be you would understand the concept of empathy. maybe you're just shallow. probably that.

February 21 at 5:13pm
Ok ok this is the last time you will ever hear from me, which you will be pleased to know. I think the reason I’ve found it so hard to let go is because I never told anyone or you how I felt about you. I think if I get it off my chest, I’ll be able to get my closure. So here it is.

You should know that there were a lot of things I didn’t like about you, but I still loved you, and was in love with you, wholly and completely, for years. And I really would’ve done anything to be with you. You were all I thought about every day and it kind of took over my life.

You should also know that the biggest regret in my life is that I didn’t get to know you. At Richmond I was going through some weird phase where I think I was trying to prove a point, which point I don’t know, or can’t remember. It was important at the time. Anyway. Have a nice life. Hope you get your million pound house.
Bye.


Then just when I thought this was the end of it, 2 weeks later it starts over...


March 4 at 8:31am
i hope "lavashak" isn't the name of a woman. i can't get over you. i still love you. i want to cook for you and take care of you. I love you . hurry up and say it back.

March 8 at 10:48am
I love you more than mangoes.‏
It's true.
Sarah.

March 10 at 12:13am
your face is more beautiful than the first lambs of spring, frolicking in pastures green.
it is true when they say that sarah loves michael.

March 11 at 11:53am
Your eyes are warm and brown like two pots of curry.
Your smile makes me feel warm inside like I’ve just eaten curry.
Basically, you remind me of curry, and I love curry. But I love you more.

March 12 at 9:23am
Your smile is sweeter than the sound of children’s laughter as they lick lollipops made of stardust and moonshine and skip about in meadows, catching butterflies and making daisy chains.

March 13 at 9:51am
Your eyes are like two glowing lumps of radioactive radium, shooting off photons of iridescent light, illuminating my world.

March 14 at 10:08am
Actually, I've got Prince of Persia for my Nintendo. It's a good game
as it goes, have you played it? There's this one really hard level
though that I can't get past. It's not because I'm rubbish or
anything, I asked everyone and they said it was the hardest bit in the
whole game. It might be easier when I get a Wii and you can use the
controller like a sword. But then, I've been thinking lately and maybe
I shouldn't get one, I've got loads of work to do and it will take up
too much of my time. What do you think I should do?

March 15 at 9:33am
Did you know that Elephant & Castle is full of crazy-weirdo people? One time last summer, this guy was walking around in a balaclava and it was about 35 degrees or something. But he was also wearing shorts, so he must've known it was hot. There's a rehab clinic opposite my office and there's this guy who sits gazing out of his window into our office. One time he was walking around naked and started pissing into (what we thought) was the sink, but was actually a cloth in the sink, which he then picked up and started licking.
It's a lovely day, isn't it?

March 16 at 4:26pm
I saw a cloud today which looked like a naan and it reminded me of
you. I miss you.

March 18 at 10:05am
hey. watcha doin? are you ever going to email me back, i just want to know you're alright.

March 20 at 11:13am
Have you ever had a moment of inspiration like in the films where the clouds part and the light comes streaming through? I did yesterday. Thanks for not blocking my email address for these past two weeks of me sending you these pesky emails. I needed to vent.I realise now (finally!) it would never work between us (even if you were interested I mean).
Hope you find peace in yourself. Good day.


God bless America

Michael
~THE EDGE

Natural Game Seminar 2 - NYC

"The ultimate goal of the Edge is that its members achieve theirs. The Edge exists so you can achieve your goal and help others achieve theirs."

Next month I will be holding a Natural Game Seminar featuring some unexposed and talented PUA’s in New York.The Seminar will be FREE, 2 hours long and followed by optional night game. The basis will be my own natural style, so expect some new ideas :-D
Provisional Date is Sat 31th Jan 2009, 7:00 to 9:00pm, New York City, Location TBA.

Rewind to Summer 2006, our first seminar in London. We were the first teachers of natural game operating out of London, UK.

Listening back to the seminar, it was far from perfect: we missed parts out, told our experiences in a rush and even left sentences unfinished. Yet the immediate feedback we got included:

"If you held bootcamps I'd pay for one"
"More charismatic than David DeAngelo"
"Look at the atmosphere you've created"
"I connected with you as soon as you told your Tube experience"
"A brilliant thing you did for the community; altruistic and truly genuine - which is the best one can hope for in life."
"Great seminar guys, + karma for you guys!"
"Who the Fuck are the Edge?" Sheriff, Mystery Method Instructor (typical lol)

Everyone who PM'd me about this should now have received an invitation. If you would like to come please confirm this. If I forgot someone please PM me.

Michael
~THE EDGE