DIRECT GAME VS INDIRECT GAME

Having a vast arsenal of skill sets is essential if you want to A) be able to meet and attract women in virtually any situation and B) be versatile enough to understand the limits and necessities of each overall interaction.

Although I advocate Direct and Natural Game, I've always said that Indirect Game also works. A well calibrated, socially savvy guy will know when it is appropriate to adopt either approach over the other style.

DIRECT OPENING

A definition of opening direct is that you express your interest immediately. It is the most honest with your objectives. Whether that interest is sexual or just interest is up to you.

Direct opening is more advanced than beginner because it demands a very strong frame and it comes from an alpha baseline. With Direct, you better have the confidence to back up what you are saying.

-Practicing this is the fastest way to increase your resistance to societal pressures.
-And it’s a very good filter in interacting with only women who are interested.

2 Types: EXPLICIT and IMPLICIT:

(You should use intuition to know which one to use and make your best assessment before every scenario)

- Explicit Direct – Intentions are fully and clearly expressed or demonstrated; leaving nothing merely implied. It is super direct and super forward.

Example openers:

1. "Excuse me, I'm sorry to bother you, I saw you and I would be kicking myself all day if I didn’t come over and introduce myself. Hi, my name is Michael.”

The first statement is your intention (I want you), the next SOI is (why you want her). This gives her a logical reason for liking her. A justification.

2. “Wow, you are gorgeous/cute, hello!”

Explicit Direct Game is very hit or miss. There are less ways to ‘save face’ if she isn’t interested. After you go in there are only 2 reactions; a good one or a bad one, there is never an in between point.

- Implicit Direct – Intentions are implied or understood though not directly expressed.

This is the form where you your sub-communications are taking care of everything while verbally you are neutral. You are not planning on verbally 'All Out' hitting on her immediately for various reasons. Instead you use innuendos, metaphors and are still making it blatantly obvious that you like her.

James Bond is often implicit. Body language is key here. It has to come from the gut. 50 other men can pay the exact same comment to a girl and fail. It probably had a lot to do with the delivery not the content. This is because women do not respond to what you say to them, women respond to how you make them FEEL, which is the most important part.

Note: Neither explicit or implicit variations work if you are not FULLY committed to the interaction. You may try to guard yourself or hold back because it can feel like the best way to protect yourself from rejection but in reality, fully committing is the best way to save yourself from rejection. You have to go in head first/guns blazing. It’s all or nothing. Then you must remain congruent with the opener so she doesn’t feel uncomfortable. Don’t retract, remain in the moment and she will perk up and become warm and interactive before you even finish the line. She will usually be doing this as it dawns on her what’s happening. Look in to the depths of her eyes. If her reaction is positive then you have a green light.

At the same time, balance the approach off with being extremely well mannered and very warm and no woman will ever discount these as out of hand. She will secretly support you if you do this. Direct game works so well because no girl ever leaves the house thinking "I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today." She will be impressed with your courage.


INDIRECT OPENING

The classic definition of indirect is that you are hiding your true intentions. Indirect is a very non-committal opening.

There are various reasons for using this. It is useful when managing across unfamiliar cultures or when there might be a social violation which can potentially result in expulsion from the social circle. In another scenario it could be that you think you might be somehow be related by a mutual friend or something like that so you have to be careful. Note however that most guys start off with indirect because they are simply too scared to be direct.

There are other reasons such as when you can tell that certain hot girls are used to having guys hitting on them, and so by going direct she instantly turns off and it is better to kick back and be indirect about it.

Examples:

1. Asking for the time
2. Talking about the weather

Indirect game works, but it doesn’t have the passion and women love passion. In Indirect, you may cross wires with a girl i.e. it might not be obvious to her where things are going if you haven’t clearly spelled it out.
In Indirect game, a ‘failed’ set it is quite likely to result in the friend’s zone. In Direct game it will be more likely that there will be no further relationship at all.

More thoughts:

There is a train of thought which goes like this:

Some pick up artists speak of approaching using indirect openers and at the end of the night after sex the woman has said to him, "You wanted to do this right from the start didn't you? When I first saw you and you sat down near me I thought 'Why is he sitting near me and not in all those empty seats?' Then you asked me for the time, but I know you have the time in your cell phone? This was your plan right from the start wasn't it?" The point is that hot girls know exactly what you’re doing when you go in indirect. They have seen it time and time before, they know what you're up to anyway.

So there's something refreshing about being completely honest and telling a girl that you think she's cute.

Direct and indirect are both the same thing when you break them down. The same principles apply in both cases and achieve the same results and there are elements of both in each other. In indirect there is a point where you need to SOI, and in direct there is a period for comfort. When successful: Indirect Game and Direct Game lead to the same place obviously. Direct Game is high risk / high reward. Indirect is generally low risk / low reward.

The one important thing is that you are never lacking in self awareness and correction. Without this you are stuck ad infinitum, so keep plugging away at these! Practice makes perfect.

Final Note. Without the social/life experience to properly evaluate the information exposed to you, the answers you seek will not be found in the very things written here. They only mean anything if you have reference points to help connect the dots. If you don’t have those reference points and if you are not in the field discovering sides of your personality that you didn't know existed, and begin to understand how you react to REAL WORLD situations then this article will just be an article you won’t be able to relate them back to your game.

Michael