NEW SEMINAR - SUNDAY

Guys,

This weekend I will be hosting a brand NEW Natural Game Seminar featuring NEW CONTENT so come expecting many new ideas. I am looking forward to reconnecting with most of you again after my long absence. As the weather is getting warmer and girls are looking hotter, it is the perfect time to brush up on some more Natural Game before summer comes. This is my first seminar for a long while so I am really excited about it. This time as usual it will be full immersion and making deep level changes to the way you currently see game. The Seminar will be almost free ($10 to cover the room) and 2 hours long. We are going further down the rabbit hole...

Please email theedgemichael@gmail.com to confirm attendance

Date is Sunday 5th April 5- 7 pm

Topics:

* RE-CAP 10 Commandments of Natural Game
* Sexual platforms and Conveying sexual intent - Naturally
* Core Confidence Vs Situational Based Confidence
* Reacting Vs Unreacting
* Social Conditioning
* Getting into 'State'
* How to make a connection - Conversation examples
* Escalation - Committment - Justification
* The Ultimate/Final shit test (that even the best PUA’s don’t see coming)
* Q&A
* and MORE !

Location:
Room 402
Pearl Studios NYC
500 Eighth Avenue,
4th floor
btw- 35th-36th st
10018
(212) 904 1850

Just ask for the 'Natural Game Seminar' when you get there.

See you there! Leave your routines and pick up lines at home.

Michael
www.the-edge-nyc.com

Bootcamps & New Website!

I am excited to launch my new website which just went LIVE. You can check it out here: www.the-edge-nyc.com

Some of you asked about the bootcamp which I am running so I have attached details. I only charge $750 for a 1 to 1 three day bootcamp which is 50% cheaper than all other group bootcamps out there. I charge this low price because my passion is helping others especially those who can't normally afford a bootcamp.

http://www.the-edge-nyc.com/schedule.html

Inside Out Social Dynamics Mastermind Group

Quick Update:

Tomorrow night (March 5th) I have been invited to speak at the Inside Out Social Dynamics Mastermind Group. The focus will be on Inner Game. It starts at 7PM.

Location:
CAP 21
18 W 18th Street
6th Floor [btwn 5th/6th Ave]
New York, NY 10011
212-807-0202

How to find us
"6th Floor, Studio #7"

See you there!

Natural Game Seminar 4

-Due to overwhelming demand, I have decided to hold another natural game seminar this weekend. Last weekend 40 people showed up and you guys just blowed me away and there wasn't enough room for everyone to fit in.

(Note. this is a repeat of last weeks seminar for those who missed it and expressed interest)

Email to confirm attendance: theedgemichael@gmail.com

Date is Sun 22nd Feb 2009, 5:00 to 7:00pm.

Location:
Room 404
Pearl Studios NYC
500 Eighth Avenue,
4th floor
btw- 34th-35th st
10018
(212) 904 1850

Testimonials from the last seminar:

"Michael opened definitely some new insights to the Game. His basic approach: be natural, forget the lines, put your real self instead of the lines, improve yourself to be interesting without the lines. With I think is an approach which work for a longer time and solve your core problems. Written with many thanks to Michael by Aristokrat (Denis)"

"Hey Michael just wanted to say I had great time at your seminar. It taught me alot like how focus on my core self thx alot man. Through it was able to meet alot of great people afterwards." Delva

"Michael, Thank you for taking your time to describe your view of Natural game. It was very inspiring to hear it in person and see your charismatic vibe. Thanks again!" Ryan

"More than i hoped for, real informative" Jay Kim

"What you are doing is awesome and really nice for the community... I just wanted say thanks and hopefully we will see each other again one day and hang out.." Miles

Michael
~THE EDGE

Natural Game Seminar 3 - NYC

"The ultimate goal of the Edge is that its members achieve theirs. The Edge exists so you can achieve your goal and help others achieve theirs."

This week I will be holding a Natural Game Seminar featuring some unexposed and talented PUA’s in New York. The Seminar will be FREE, 2 hours long and followed by optional night game. The basis will be my own natural style, so expect some new ideas :-D

Email to confirm attendance: theedgemichael@gmail.com

Date is Sun 15th Feb 2009, 5:00 to 7:00pm.

Location:
Room 402
Pearl Studios NYC
500 Eighth Avenue,
4th floor
btw- 34th-35th st
10018
(212) 904 1850

Just ask for the 'Natural Game Seminar'.

Rewind to Summer 2006, our first seminar in London. We were the first teachers of natural game operating out of London, UK.

Listening back to the seminar, it was far from perfect: we missed parts out, told our experiences in a rush and even left sentences unfinished. Yet the immediate feedback we got included:

"If you held bootcamps I'd pay for one"
"More charismatic than David DeAngelo"
"Look at the atmosphere you've created"
"I connected with you as soon as you told your Tube experience"
"A brilliant thing you did for the community; altruistic and truly genuine - which is the best one can hope for in life."
"Great seminar guys, + karma for you guys!"
"Who the Fuck are the Edge?" Sheriff, Mystery Method Instructor (typical lol)

Everyone who emailed me about this should now have received an invitation. If you would like to come please confirm this. If I forgot someone please email me.

Michael
~THE EDGE

Natural Game FULLY EXPLAINED

Natural Game is the highest form of individual expression. Interacting with random strangers is our only chance to get real world, unadulterated feedback on who we REALLY are!

Natural Game with structure is NOT natural game. The moment anyone starts putting a structure around it makes it lost because there is no set way to take a man from A-Z in pick-up. Every guy in the seduction community can't be tarred with the same brush.

No.1 rule: No structure + No agenda

Remember if all male/female interactions emanate from this perspective, you can instantly disarm even the most intimidating beautiful woman.

Natural Game is the reality behind the appearance. It is about establishing an unspoken connection with her. A man to woman bond. heart to heart and beyond words is essential. You cannot do this with routines. Know that what exists within you is boundary less. It is being both in the moment, and on your path, willing to let her come with you along the way.

Becoming a Natural means we can say:

1. I follow my natural instinctual urges.
2. I have locked all underlying natural insinuations through firsthand experience.
3. I have supplanted deep inner natural presuppositions and behaviour.
4. I have a naturally flirtatious personality.


How is this done?

1. Understanding that the words and frame are massively less important than the sub communications you project.
2. Through ensuring that there is no difference between your ‘core’ persona and your ‘pickup’ persona.
3. By putting your real personality on the line.


The 3 LEVELS:

On a narrow definition there are broadly 3 levels of game: (credit to Sebastian)

Level 1: The ‘What do I say’ Level.
People at this stage worry about the specifics of what they are actually saying and want to know how to ‘talk up’ their game using routines or crutches. What they don’t realise is that it doesn’t matter what you say, women only respond to how you make them FEEL. This is the absolute amateur level.

Level 2: The Frame Level.
What has changed is how you frame your interactions with women, you become aware that the frame you adopt can change the meaning of what you say and so going forward you try using some. Therefore less time is spent paying attention to your own words but rather the meaning behind them.

Level 3: The Sub Communication Level.
You realise that the words and the frame are much less important than your sub communications which are basically driven by the state which you experience and project. You become aware that women do not respond to what you say but how you make them FEEL. You start throwing away everything you know, just say 'Hello' and celebrate everything that excites you about them. It means a complete devotion to something that is infinitely larger than yourself or anything around you. When you are at level 3, set’s just smashed open; you will be able to spark interest from wherever you are by just turning up to places, and all the other guys around you are scratching their heads wondering how the hell you’re doing it without any obvious strategy. They will then go to the forums and post about you that they are getting crap advice to just go ahead and say 'hello, my name is X' because they don't understand it yet.

Core Persona vs. Pick up Persona
If you’re running out of things to say, it is because you are trying to sub-consciously match up to some girl ‘you’ve just met 5 minutes ago’ standards, rather than impose your own. This is the basic problem of relying on routines to a girl, because she can tell on some level you feel the need to impress her. The when you run out of ‘material’, after a few minutes, the gap will be felt between your CORE persona and your PICK UP persona, and this isn’t attractive.
Hint: There is no difference between gaming and not gaming - sarging and not sarging. This is True Natural Game.

Despite PUA perception, women can never truly be fooled. They have something that men don't and never will -- a strong sense of intuition. The minute you disrespect that about a woman, you're finished.

Put your Real Personality on the line.
Natural Game can be developed by putting your real personality on the Line. This fortitude is something you build through exposing your real personality and allowing your real personality to be rejected, constantly - until you reach the "Indifference Threshold”. I advised back in the day to escalate as much as was necessary until all fear and shame was destroyed. Once you reach that indifference threshold, your sub communication will take care of everything.

There is a train of thought which goes like this:

Community Guy 1
This guy is the sort of guy who goes up to a female assistant in a clothes shop and says "I'm looking for a jacket” and she looks at him like he is a freak but she is polite anyway, but she talks to him in a way that makes him want to leave the shop. There are certainly plenty guys in the community who are at this stage.

Going up to some girl and saying "Hi, I'm X, how are you doing?" in a nervous and expecting a negative response way is not going to do anything other than reinforce the previous poor experiences. They need to get used to getting a *positive* reaction from girls, to develop core confidence. However, by putting the real personality on the line, over time, they can get used to getting positive experiences and build their subcommunications up to a point where they become:

Community Guy 2
You've been in the community for a while and are well calibrated and socially savvy. You have very few limiting beliefs and are generally walking through the world with ease. You are used to getting good reactions and sparking interest in any social situation. You go into a clothes shop and say "I'm looking for a jacket" and the shop assistant's reaction towards you is very friendly (because of your great calibration, vibe and energy) and she is glad you walked through that door and into her life.

The Routine versus Natural Game Debate:
In my best assessment, people who believe they fundamentally lack something and need to compensate with 'material' or ‘lines’ will not find understanding natural game easy at all. This is a skill set that requires a lot of pain and effort to learn. If you won’t go through the pain in the first place you will get nowhere.

Routines/Canned game generally operate under the presupposition that the girl has higher value than you, so you need to raise your value and lower hers in order to get the girl. Girls detect these pre-meditated approaches a mile away. Natural Game presupposes you have the higher value so trying to alter the value dynamic isn't really relevant.

The head shouldn’t be full of 'what technique shall I roll out next' rather than full of the experience of the current moment. In other words, there should be no calculation, no strategising, and no expression of something that has been pre-rehearsed. Being present and in the moment is key. Do it. No personality shells. No situational based confidence. No crutches.

It's also the mindset...
‘So they talk to me, I have to body rock so I don't look too interested’
‘So she feels like she knows me for longer, I should do some future projections’
‘I hear that girls like to talk about this topic, so that's what I'm going to do, even though I find it boring’
‘I have to disqualify myself and make her qualify herself to me’
Fuck all of this. This is not natural game.

Don’t waste any time to destroy any naturally flirtatious personality you may have in order to make superficial friendships with people doing the above.

Conclusion:
When guys first get into pick-up (as a result of the hype, I'm sure) they expect mind blowing results immediately and consistently - and few of these experiences are forthcoming. If you are using canned material to fill a gap, ask yourself why you are not filling it with something that actually matters to you. What is it exactly that you are afraid of expressing? Why can you not put your real personality on the line?

Students come into the game from months of internet-based study or practice only to find the routine models they have memorised are no match for the sheer diversity of situations arising in the real world. Their understanding of Game at this level shows a naive move with little foresight which doesn’t define longevity. Promises of the silver bullet, the pick-up artist who can get any girl remain elusively distant.

Good news, if you are willing to take a hit in skill and change in mind set, change is possible and you will enjoy spontaneous, unscripted interactions. Through experience, observation, honesty, and insight, natural habits (both verbal and non-verbal) can be built gradually over time. You may run into brick wall after brick wall before getting any real results but anyone with courage, conviction and drive to succeed will do it in no time!

I have shown you this is nice because you can just relax when you get girls without feeling you constantly have to 'perform'. Put the pick-up lines in a cage and don’t feed them. It is better to have natural game full of holes than not attempting any of this at all. Let the passion build naturally. DO NOT force it. Find your own rhythm. Create your own method and style based purely on in-field references. If you can so this you will be rockin’ the PU community next to none. The value you will start getting out of this way of life will be fucking quadrupling. Party times await. Never give up, never surrender. Nobody else will give you anything in this world.

Don’t be a Seminar Junkie / Keyboard Jockey

Michael

DIRECT GAME VS INDIRECT GAME

Having a vast arsenal of skill sets is essential if you want to A) be able to meet and attract women in virtually any situation and B) be versatile enough to understand the limits and necessities of each overall interaction.

Although I advocate Direct and Natural Game, I've always said that Indirect Game also works. A well calibrated, socially savvy guy will know when it is appropriate to adopt either approach over the other style.

DIRECT OPENING

A definition of opening direct is that you express your interest immediately. It is the most honest with your objectives. Whether that interest is sexual or just interest is up to you.

Direct opening is more advanced than beginner because it demands a very strong frame and it comes from an alpha baseline. With Direct, you better have the confidence to back up what you are saying.

-Practicing this is the fastest way to increase your resistance to societal pressures.
-And it’s a very good filter in interacting with only women who are interested.

2 Types: EXPLICIT and IMPLICIT:

(You should use intuition to know which one to use and make your best assessment before every scenario)

- Explicit Direct – Intentions are fully and clearly expressed or demonstrated; leaving nothing merely implied. It is super direct and super forward.

Example openers:

1. "Excuse me, I'm sorry to bother you, I saw you and I would be kicking myself all day if I didn’t come over and introduce myself. Hi, my name is Michael.”

The first statement is your intention (I want you), the next SOI is (why you want her). This gives her a logical reason for liking her. A justification.

2. “Wow, you are gorgeous/cute, hello!”

Explicit Direct Game is very hit or miss. There are less ways to ‘save face’ if she isn’t interested. After you go in there are only 2 reactions; a good one or a bad one, there is never an in between point.

- Implicit Direct – Intentions are implied or understood though not directly expressed.

This is the form where you your sub-communications are taking care of everything while verbally you are neutral. You are not planning on verbally 'All Out' hitting on her immediately for various reasons. Instead you use innuendos, metaphors and are still making it blatantly obvious that you like her.

James Bond is often implicit. Body language is key here. It has to come from the gut. 50 other men can pay the exact same comment to a girl and fail. It probably had a lot to do with the delivery not the content. This is because women do not respond to what you say to them, women respond to how you make them FEEL, which is the most important part.

Note: Neither explicit or implicit variations work if you are not FULLY committed to the interaction. You may try to guard yourself or hold back because it can feel like the best way to protect yourself from rejection but in reality, fully committing is the best way to save yourself from rejection. You have to go in head first/guns blazing. It’s all or nothing. Then you must remain congruent with the opener so she doesn’t feel uncomfortable. Don’t retract, remain in the moment and she will perk up and become warm and interactive before you even finish the line. She will usually be doing this as it dawns on her what’s happening. Look in to the depths of her eyes. If her reaction is positive then you have a green light.

At the same time, balance the approach off with being extremely well mannered and very warm and no woman will ever discount these as out of hand. She will secretly support you if you do this. Direct game works so well because no girl ever leaves the house thinking "I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today." She will be impressed with your courage.


INDIRECT OPENING

The classic definition of indirect is that you are hiding your true intentions. Indirect is a very non-committal opening.

There are various reasons for using this. It is useful when managing across unfamiliar cultures or when there might be a social violation which can potentially result in expulsion from the social circle. In another scenario it could be that you think you might be somehow be related by a mutual friend or something like that so you have to be careful. Note however that most guys start off with indirect because they are simply too scared to be direct.

There are other reasons such as when you can tell that certain hot girls are used to having guys hitting on them, and so by going direct she instantly turns off and it is better to kick back and be indirect about it.

Examples:

1. Asking for the time
2. Talking about the weather

Indirect game works, but it doesn’t have the passion and women love passion. In Indirect, you may cross wires with a girl i.e. it might not be obvious to her where things are going if you haven’t clearly spelled it out.
In Indirect game, a ‘failed’ set it is quite likely to result in the friend’s zone. In Direct game it will be more likely that there will be no further relationship at all.

More thoughts:

There is a train of thought which goes like this:

Some pick up artists speak of approaching using indirect openers and at the end of the night after sex the woman has said to him, "You wanted to do this right from the start didn't you? When I first saw you and you sat down near me I thought 'Why is he sitting near me and not in all those empty seats?' Then you asked me for the time, but I know you have the time in your cell phone? This was your plan right from the start wasn't it?" The point is that hot girls know exactly what you’re doing when you go in indirect. They have seen it time and time before, they know what you're up to anyway.

So there's something refreshing about being completely honest and telling a girl that you think she's cute.

Direct and indirect are both the same thing when you break them down. The same principles apply in both cases and achieve the same results and there are elements of both in each other. In indirect there is a point where you need to SOI, and in direct there is a period for comfort. When successful: Indirect Game and Direct Game lead to the same place obviously. Direct Game is high risk / high reward. Indirect is generally low risk / low reward.

The one important thing is that you are never lacking in self awareness and correction. Without this you are stuck ad infinitum, so keep plugging away at these! Practice makes perfect.

Final Note. Without the social/life experience to properly evaluate the information exposed to you, the answers you seek will not be found in the very things written here. They only mean anything if you have reference points to help connect the dots. If you don’t have those reference points and if you are not in the field discovering sides of your personality that you didn't know existed, and begin to understand how you react to REAL WORLD situations then this article will just be an article you won’t be able to relate them back to your game.

Michael

Natural Game DHV’s: Demonstrating Higher Value

I heard a great value story before about Al Pacino that also gives me a sense of what is possible in pick-up. The Director is telling Al Pacino how he wants him to deliver the first two pages of the script to convey his character and the plot. Al Pacino says "We don’t need to do these first two pages. I can say all that in the first second just by the way I stand."

Attraction is mostly sub communicated through things like eye contact, body language and only a small amount of speech. Women do not respond to what you say, women respond to how you make them FEEL. This is sub communication on an ingrained level and is truly what generates all the attraction needed in a direct pick up. When you have these, No flamboyant routines, no playing hard to get and no social proof is necessary. Calibrate them into your own unique personality and you will be sending teenage girls into rapture.

Value isn’t a zero sum concept. Value is infinite; there is no reason to save or hide your value. It’s not an exhaustible resource, it won’t run out. I can generate value out of nothing in seconds because I understand what value is:

True Natural Game DHV’s:

• Great state regardless of the social feedback of other people.
• You don't supplicate and give your power away.
• Being able to fill or relax in awkward silences.
• Unreactive
• Vibe-sensitive. (Feeling subtle shifts in the interaction and never letting it get too negative, quiet or low-energy).
• Being the source of energy and good emotions.
• No active searching for indicators of interest (IOI’s) or fishing for compliments.
• Making people who are trying to 1-up feel like they are failing. Even cock blocks and alpha males are helping you and are on your side.
• Subtly screening girls you interact with.
• No qualifying, validation or approval seeking.
• Being present and in the moment.
• Not drawing emotion or state from the environment
• Feeling of self respect and high self worth.
• Perpetual and influential good feeling
• Assertive and unhesitant
• Well calibrated and socially savvy to all people not just the one you are talking to.
• Help people rise to their aspirations.
• Break rapport. shows non-neediness, standards and self contentment
• Talking about topics in detail without actually talking about any personal achievements within it.
• Body language well dialled and honed
• Not relying on alcohol. Visibly makes you sloppy and clouds your judgement.

The above examples are of how often natural guys without 'flashy looking game' will get laid. They are potent.

Michael – NYC

The Edge

Gettin an Edge and being in state is a rare occurrence that happens in social situations when absolute belief in myself and social dynamics impact with each other and magnetise to put me in the 'zone'. Its influence is immeasurably positive.

State has taught me everything I know...and when it speaks, I listen. I remember the nights when I became amped and had almost no approach anxiety. I have access to the best parts of my personality and my sub-communication takes care of everything. Everything seems to be in slow motion and effortless. If there was a mirror with a hole in it, I would fuck it. My Edge rips my clothes to shreds. I just feel bad for the other guys in the room. I see all the minds in the room interacting with each other. Some will try to project incredible things onto me but I don’t buy into them. The halo of the Edge protects.

It is frightening to us in terms of its intensity and emotional truth and honesty. When it works - it works well but and when it works great - the results are magnificent. As it is developing emotional momentum, the Edge can burn out and may need reigniting. At the end of the night the Edge is shining and you’re out of your head. It will always be shimmering, waiting for the next time.

Once you've glimpsed the Edge there's no turning back. It will literally flatten out anything that get's in the way; anxieties, inhibitions, abrasiveness. When in this state you will be UNBREAKABLE. You have unstoppable super confidence. Normally either you overwhelm the scene or the scene can overwhelm you. In this state you would have set the scene on fire.

Unlike alcohol, visibly it does not make you sloppy or cloud your judgement but the net effect is still the same, you lose your inhibitions. Furthermore this is not an ego-boosting activity where the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I mean, are we so sure that it's wise to be building state which is addictive as crack-cocaine? Yes it is a highest form of natural expression and perfectly safe.

Don’t chase this state. It will come to you. In the meantime, enjoy a few quiet moments. They don't come often enough.

You may have not experienced it yet In-Field, but you will, oh you will..!
Feel free to comment on your experiences...

Michael - NYC
~THE EDGE

7 Facts About Women

• Women don’t respond to what you say. Women respond to how you make them feel.
• Women are not just attracted to men. Women are attracted to IDEAS.
• There is a difference to what women say they want and what they actually respond to.
• Women are attracted to you anyway. You just have to make them comfortable with sharing that attraction with you.
• All women want to be on the receiving end of authentic communication.
• Women will like the REAL you, if they can get to know the REAL you.
• No women ever leaves the house thinking "I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today."


Michael
~THE EDGE

We Pursue That Which Retreats From Us

--On a narrow definition:

In social dynamics – the following statement holds true; absence makes the heart grow fonder. It is sad but true, when a woman misses you, she wants you more. Human beings are hardwired to want what they can’t have. When two individuals meet, they are particularly sensitive as to whether the interaction is with a dominant, subordinate or an equal individual. In any interaction, one person is reacting more than the other. Once this view has been taken it becomes increasingly difficult to change or restore the balance. This is the cat string theory. If you hold a string above a cat, it will go crazy for you. It will do anything it can do to get the string, but the moment it has it, it soon gets bored and throws it away. The lack of something increases the desire for it.

--In a wider perspective:

The aim to have a positive interaction should be two steps forward, and one step back whilst always escalating. The mistake often is the belief that persistent presence will reassure a woman. However, the more obviously you chase a woman, the more likely you are to scare her away. Going forward, try to decide when to selectively withdraw. You won’t look desperate and needy, and the missing information about you suggests that there must be more to you. You don’t want her to be thinking, “Oh my god! Are we going to be stuck with this guy, all night?’ as this is un-seductive. You want her to believe that you are a man with options. Make sure however that you do fully commit to the interaction but create some value through scarcity. This may go against everything you’ve been thinking so far, but if there is ONE thing that you need to get right, it is probably this! Too much circulation makes the price go down. Anything in this game that is successful is counter intuitive:

Such neediness as described above includes qualifying yourself to the girl or constantly approval/reaction seeking which will destroy your value. Think if Brad Pitt was in the club. Do you think that Brad Pitt would qualify himself to anyone? No. He would just turn up. To quote the philosopher Lao Tzu, "Care about other people's approval, and you will be their prisoner." As you start to follow this principle, you will start to become detached from the outcome and just get on with having good, solid positive interactions. There is no pressure to build a strong value-laden relationship right off the bat.

This can be referred to as push/pull. Pull is when you're drawing her in and validating her. Push is when - you're showing something is not as important as she had made it out to be whilst still progressing to the forward movement. Punish any unwanted behaviour with disinterest until further rapport is established. This can often be done by just creating a vacuum of silence between the two of you, where she will feel the need to fill the gap if you have shown prior commitment to the interaction already. Note. You also need to be careful of your attainability to her. She should believe she has a shot to get you if she wants to.

Michael
~THE EDGE

Put Up, Shut up, Go Hard or Go Home! -- Mindset of a Successful Pick-Up Artist

If the Game is all about perception then I must be living to my expectations. It's rooted in my own sense of self. So what does excelling in both content and deliverance and walking around not giving the SLIGHTEST FUCK about anyone here do? It gives you a rock solid reality to own the frame. A reality so strong you can break rocks on.

I personally happen to think we should be more concerned with the usefulness than the truthfulness of our beliefs. Sometimes getting a girl to bed is like negotiating a minefield, only experience will teach you how to get through it. In the interim, here is the mapping of my own mindscape, a guide. You should create your own mindset based on first hand in-field references. You can start to break all sorts of rules and you’ll find you will get away with it. All great pick up artists have internalised these; they are the difference that of throwing a bullet, and shooting it from a gun:

ON REJECTION: I need to have no outcome dependency. Be Disconnected. WIN-WIN = THE perfect situation. I don’t take my sets too seriously. They really don’t faze me. If you get blown out you learn from it. As Rocky says “Life is not about how hard you can HIT, Life is about how hard you GET HIT and keep moving forward.” Add it to the body of knowledge that you have and take corrective action. Only recently have I discovered how important it is to always have a learning frame.

Most people who get into this fail. They do so because of various reasons all leading back to one character flaw - they are too willing to give up on themselves. I have no problem with ‘rejection’, as a matter of fact I like it as it keeps me humble. If it annoys you, remind yourself that you always have the excellent consolation prize of knowing that you needed to have balls to do what you just did. The fact that you are doing it is far more important than the reaction you get. By the way, Babe Ruth held the record for the most home runs in baseball history. Did you know he also held the record for most strike outs? Think about that.

ON EGO: The ego is vulnerable and a mind identified state constantly under threat. Surprisingly it is the ego which most often talked me out of approaching women, not fear. Most guys would rather save their current impression of themselves rather than go out and put it on the line and risk rejection. Your ego relates everything to a historic benchmark. When your current based reality doesn't match your past reality, your ego reacts resulting in unwanted behaviour. It creates an identity to resolve the paradox between your internal drives and desires - and idealised behaviour dictated by society & culture. So people build up their own self worth, value and especially their skills in their heads. They believe they are amazing and they create this false self based on nothing, no evidence of any kind to keep them safe from reality. Reaction/approval seeking and looking for validation are examples of feeding the ego.

Everyone has an ego. You can't kill your ego. Gradually eradicate it. It's damn near impossible to detach yourself from it. It's just an issue of how self-affecting your ego is and how much it consumes you. It's not there just to stop us getting what we want; it's there also at times to help us, to bolster us up and stop us from falling. However never let your ego disillusion you about what you've always wanted in life and what you care about. Never let pride hold you back. When I realised was this I was 1000000x better. Reset the ego button. And that is it. If you don’t approach her because of your ego, you’re cheating yourself and her.

ON FEAR: I want to summarise this simply with a quote from a Marianne Williams poem. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others” So true. That is all you need to know and internalise before making a cold approach to a woman. Putting yourself in scenarios that are more unpredictable will help.

ON BEING ALPHA: To sum up- Alpha male is leader of a pack, beta is the weak non-descript faceless fool that follows (credit to Cardenas). They are sheep. And sheep get slaughtered. A beta male just has no confidence in what he does. I don’t lose any battles when I set the terms. I think the word here is UNHESITANT. Most people stand aside when the alpha challenges. I regularly happen to quiz my ex-girl friends about what was it that attracted them to me. They normally tell me I am the most confident guy they have ever met. Even when discussing topics that they want to talk about, it’s all from my point of view. Note. When someone is actually an alpha male they will exhibit alpha traits but take time and effort in exuding humility. The result is respect and love from both men and women. When someone is ‘trying’ to be alpha they spend their time exuding alpha traits and forget humility. Net effect? Arrogance.

ON DESPERATION: Don’t be desperate or needy. A real life example of guys who cannot let go at any costs (Please God don’t let this ever be you) are adverts placed in the classified sections of newspapers: Example: “To the girl in the red top who smiled at me whilst going down the escalator at Grand Central Station: It was around 3pm on Friday afternoon. I was coming up the escalator and you were going down. I looked at you too and smiled. I was not able to say anything. If by some miracle you see this message, do please get in touch. Blew it - I'd really love to see you again..xxx.” Stupid, stupid, stupid. This is not even realistic. Let it go like a bad stink. Just forget that you smelt it and move on. The world is filled with abundance. Get out of living in this scarcity mindset.

ON POSITIVITY: Put in positivity and abundance and that is exactly what you will get back. If you honestly believe there are disadvantages to being positive then you need to ask yourself why. When I am speaking with a girl I assume attraction. An important belief that I have is that ‘I honestly believe that I am the best person for her’. I have no doubt in my mind. This is why I go through girlfriends like most people go through packets of cereal. When we start learning seduction, we start by layering positive beliefs on top of the negative ones in the hope that we altogether kill the negativity. It was about keeping a positive outlook and reaching for the impossible. Subsequently I have few or no negative beliefs about women either. I figured out that viewing the world as a war zone is a big sign that inside you’re still pissed off at the world. Belittling/putting others down to make yourself feel better will only destroy your value. Avoid. No problem is permanent.

Enthusiasm is valuable & energising. Most people look at their current circumstances and deem certain things impossible. If you believe something can be done then you stand a much greater chance of actually doing it. How many hot babes would give you their number if you said something like "I doubt it, but if you were interested, maybe you would go out with me" None. However approach the same aim with a positive mind and you will improve your chances.

WOMEN ON MEN: Have you guys stopped to think that women actually want to be seduced? And not necessarily for a serious relationship but for a one-night-stand and casual sex as well? This is an important belief. I’m talking about projecting sexual state and conveying sexual intent. Yes, I based my game around this and I was very, very good. By building a sexual platform, girls were clawed, key locked, number closed, and amazingness ensued. I actually have a friend who had sex from a wrong number just by continuing to talk to her. If you don’t believe me just read My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday.

ON SOCIAL CONDITIONING: We all already have what's necessary to get what we want - it's buried under piles of negative experiences, limiting beliefs and social programming. People try to project incredible things onto me but I don’t buy into them. Popular culture, family life, school etc. I cordially dislike any form of pretension or judgement based perception of social status, physical appearance, possessions etc. Height, money, penis length, job are all common misconceptions by guys of things that actually matter to a women. 95% of women are not fussed about these things. So you should forget about them too.

Example: In Scarface, Tony Montana says when you get the money you have the power, then you get the power you get woman. In reality though, looks and money don’t get you laid. The guys who spend thousands of dollars on bottles of Dom Pérignon each night in nightclubs to impress girls go home and have an expensive wank. Pete Doherty (heroin addict/small time rock star) gave us all hope when he dated supermodel Kate Moss and his example serves the purpose.

Bench press the World guys. And if you don’t believe in all this Inner Game stuff here is a gentle reminder; One day looks will fade, but a beautiful mind will stay young at an old age. Inner game is king.

Michael
NYC
~THE EDGE

Christian Troy

Unreactive. Detached from the outcome. Masculine polarity. Demonstrates higher value.

The Tao of Edge

(Being Present and in the Moment)

Being present is consciousness liberated from thought forms.
It is total freedom from the known...
The masks are off!

A large component of natural game is being able to turn off the voice in your head (i.e. monologue /mental noise). This voice complains, comments, likes, dislikes, judges and compares. It is the voice which talks you out of approaching women or makes you nervous and persuades you to leave a conversation early. This mindset makes a guy see the present through the eyes of the past or imagine negative outcomes in the future. This is the Tao. And this has been particularly key to my progress.

Have no pick-up lines or routines in your mind! In my best assessment, people who believe they fundamentally lack something and need to compensate with 'material' or ‘lines’ will not find understanding this easy at all.

I learned that whenever you are able to observe and watch your mind, you are no longer trapped inside it. The moment you realise you have not been present, you become present. But the instant your conscious attention sinks below a certain level or the outer world intrudes, thought rushes in. The words crawl in, the stillness is lost and you have a snap moment! You are back to being in a zombified state. This is best exemplified I believe after sex, where the physical sensations/orgasms are finished by a CLICK moment.

This energy can be tapped into in pick-up. Approach anxiety or quick ejection from talking to a hot babe is caused by the same thing; by not being in the moment. Unfortunately sometimes we start to talk ourselves out of approaching or start to leave. So thought creates an interval which is time and time waits for no one. All you have to do is take action before you can think of a way to fuck it up...

In this instance if you are thinking when you want to approach a woman, you usually do one of 3 things:


1) Think about all the times you've been rejected- Past
(Every emotional pain leaves behind a residue of pain that lives on in you. Anything can trigger it, even an innocent remark)

2) Think about how it is going to go with ‘mental movies’ - Future
(Avoid. The quality of your consciousness at this moment is what shapes the future and usually the future is a replica of the past/present)

3) Your body freezes, your heart pumps very hard, you feel weak in your knees etc.
(These are the physical sensations which everyone can relate to in some manner when thinking about it too hard)



The above can be avoided by entering the present from wherever you are. As long as you are in a state of intense presence, you are free of thought. You are still, yet highly alert. You have full access to the best parts of your personality and your sub communication will take care of everything. If you can just become intensely conscious of the present moment and find the off button, you will find stillness and peacefulness to break through the approach. This is natural game in full force. It is true relationship.

Such 'presence’ is like being trapped with a poisonous snake in a small room; you watch its every movement, you are very, very sensitive to the slightest sound and hiss it makes. You are aware of the silent presence of each thing and to the danger but there is no new thought. Such a state of attention is total energy; in such awareness the totality of yourself is revealed in an instant.

This does astonishing things for your ability to relate to other people and socialise comfortably. It will be reflected in your body language; women can see from your pupils that you didn’t retract into your head. All people just want to be on the receiving end of this authentic communication.


Pulp Fiction Example:

Then the first of an uncomfortable silence happens.

MIA
Don't you hate that?

VINCENT
What?

MIA
Uncomfortable silences. Why do we
feel it's necessary to yak about
bullshit in order to be
comfortable?

VINCENT
I don't know.

MIA
That's when you know you found
somebody special. When you can
just shut the fuck up for a minute,
and comfortably share silence.


There is a brief and elusive glimpse of ‘no mind’ whenever there is a gap in the stream of mind. Think of a time with someone when there is an emotionally tense moment – e.g. after an argument or after a conversation where you reveal something particularly vulnerable about yourself. There is moment of electricity, followed by a silence, where you both look at each other. You see each other in a different light and share a rare form of communication. There are no longer 2 minds interacting with each other. There is a flash of insight which leads to the destruction of all the prejudices and images you created which block the true relationship.

If you really want to exercise these muscles and become present, ask yourself questions when reading this. Do I really know the people I am talking to? What is really going on and what is this person really like? E.g. does my congressman secretly get whipped by his mistress?

The easiest way to get out of your head is to get into someone else’s. I suggest that the way out of your head and into the moment is to place all of your attention on the other person. In order to un-stifle yourself - See yourself in all people..

The only peace you find in an interaction with a woman is the peace you bring with you.

Inner Game is King.

Michael - NYC
~THE EDGE

They All Want To Be Porn Stars (explicit)

A World Class inner game post from my friend of 6 years Daniel Cardenas off The London Seduction Society. Re-produced with kind permission:

There are only two fears you are born with:

Fear of loud sounds
Fear of falling

Somewhere down the line, someone screwed a few of you over and told you that you have to be scared of women. There is no need to be scared. I’m going to let you in on a secret:

All girls want to be porn stars. That’s right they are all little filth pots that want to get down and dirty. I hate to have to be the one to break it to you but your old dear loves nothing more than getting bent over and slipped a hard one. It is the same with every girl you meet- she wants to get bent over. Loves it.

But they don’t want to be the instigator of the filth. No girl wants to be viewed as a slut or dirtier than you. Therefore they have to be led through the process. We already know this. They must be led from the moment you meet them and even in your bedroom, because they do not want to feel like the pervert. So have you got to assume that role for them, in the same way that they want to be seduced rather than thinking they picked you up. Women are passive in all aspects of the mating ritual. It is rare that girls will run up to you and say “Here is my number, take me out and fuck me on the 1st date”. They are all hardwired this way.

Surprisingly, you’ll find it is very common for women to have “rape fantasies” (Read “My Secret Garden” if you don’t believe me). What does that mean? All chicks are mad? No, it is an extension of their passive nature; this is the extreme form of being led, the complete submission of control. It is the extension and sexual manifestation of their social programming, i.e. the submissive and passive role of the female in sexual encounters.

Now we know girls are filthy and want to be dominated how do we go about capitalising on this?Build a platform for filth. They play up to it. The idea is to create an atmosphere through sexual stories (most of which may not be about you) that convey that no matter how dirty she is, it is nothing to what you have seen. This is your reality. A stage has now been created for her to perform on, to be extremely sexual and filthy.

Has this tactic ever made me look like a pervert and driven the girl away? On the contrary, the girl feels less inhibited and has an outlet for all her sexual fantasies because no matter what she says or does, it does not beat anything I have said or done. However, being highly sexual and blasé about your experiences is not to be confused with being a sleaze. That is why stories are the best way to approach this. Never be a salivating pervert.

All the deviant shit I have done, I have never been told “You sick bastard, don’t you ever come near me again with that”. In fact the opposite- “Oh that was so naughty/dirty, so much fun”.I gave a facial to my one of my GF’s the other week- she was smiling ear to ear after. This girl comes across as so sweet innocent; you would think butter wouldn’t melt in her mouth, let alone my nuts melting on her face. You would be surprised by the difference in what they really want and what they tell you they want.

Your ability to dominate is going to be determined by your mindset. So in this instance (using this frame), I am convinced that the girl wants to be experience a spontaneous sexual encounter because all girls do. She wants me to take her home and do all the dirty she stuff she fantasises about, but her chump boyfriend is too timid to do. She needs this fuck more than I do. As far as I am convinced it is an interview- make me want to fuck you and fulfil those fantasies for you. You will squirt cum and remember me forever.

Do not confuse any of this for a lack of respect. Respect and trust play a massive part in all of this- women only submit themselves to men that they can trust. There is nothing more intimate for a woman than a man physically entering them.The reason I do well is because I am effectively a sheep on wolves clothing, in that I am quite boyish in my looks and comes across as very sweet and respectful (I shit you not, I get told this by every woman I meet!). However, when I need to I switch into captain caveman I do. I bring out my club, bash them over the head, drag them to my cave and fuck their brains out.

Build trust, show you respect her. Then once you have trust – caveman and lead.Why? Because she wants you to.But don’t take it to the other extreme and display too much respect and be afraid to dominate because you have placed her on a pedestal. Kick that girl off her pedestal and bend her over it. Remember you are the fucking prize and doing her a favour.Become an outlet for her fantasies. By doing so I maintain control, I never supplicate- she is a porn star dying for the bang, she needs me to carry out these fantasies.Literally as I am writing this I just received this message_“I just love how naughty u look u have no idea how much I get turned on just thinking about how cheeky your smile is. It makes you feel like you can do anything to me at anytime” I have not told you this to brag but to illustrate the point I am making. By having the frame that she wants to be a porn star but needs to be led, I assume the dominant role in order to lead her to that place where she feels comfortable and horny enough to have anything done to her at anytime.

Conclusion: I am not encouraging you to up the nastiness of your bedroom activities (however, it is more fun). I am trying to illustrate the point that all girls want to be treated like porn stars. They want to be seen as sexual beings that turn you on and make you want to tear her clothes off. They are just as filth as you and I. But you have to lead her. This is the same for the initial pick up. From the moment you meet her, you have to understand that she wants to be dominated. She will not offer herself to you as a sacrifice to the Gods.

We have to make the approach
We have to lead the conversation
We have to lead her home
We have to make the first move
We have to dominate and up the stakes in the bedroom

Lead her through the conversation, lead her to your bedroom; lead her in your bedroom. Grow some balls, bend her over. She wants it- deep and hardWhy not? Scared of blowing it? Blow what? Captain Caveman her for fucks sake, hit her on the head with your club and take her back to your cave. Blowing it means getting nothing- if you don’t try it on you will always get no pussy and that is blowing it. Always finish what you start. If you don’t shoot you can’t score goals.

Women want to be picked up and are socially/genetically/evolutionary (you choose) programmed to be submissive in the mating ritual; therefore you have to initiate control of the situation. In other words BE A MAN ABOUT IT!

If you don’t close her she will go home thinking about you and wondering why you didn’t make a move! Probably thinking that she did something wrong or that you did not find her attractive.

Obsession

Below is a transcript of an actual series of emails that I recieved last year that went unanswered.. The Game became a dangerous obsession for a girl I barely knew but became obsessed about me.

I have posted this because I would like to know more about the mindset that goes through this person. Let me know, if you have any thoughts on it.

February 4 at 9:23pm
Thanks for ignoring me one million times. I know you don’t have to answer me, I know you don’t owe me anything, but just be a little bit kind. Don’t you think it’s strange you’re still in my brain? I do. Don’t you want to be rid of the strangeness? Doesn’t it creep you out? Isn’t it weird? All you need to type is “get over me”. That’s all I need to hear. I need peace in my brain.
Sara.

February 15 at 9:06pm
oh. i thought you were waiting til valentine's day to tell me that you love me. it's ok, you can still do it now if you want.

February 20 at 5:35pm
i want to have your children. just think how good looking they would be with both of our looks combined. so what do you think? good idea/bad idea?

February 21 at 3:03pm
well done for being in new york, be careful not get to get shot or mugged.
i can't believe you erased those special memories you and i had together, like they never happened. there is one simple way to make me go away, so stop being an arsehole and do it. if you're as deep and philosophical as you claim to be you would understand the concept of empathy. maybe you're just shallow. probably that.

February 21 at 5:13pm
Ok ok this is the last time you will ever hear from me, which you will be pleased to know. I think the reason I’ve found it so hard to let go is because I never told anyone or you how I felt about you. I think if I get it off my chest, I’ll be able to get my closure. So here it is.

You should know that there were a lot of things I didn’t like about you, but I still loved you, and was in love with you, wholly and completely, for years. And I really would’ve done anything to be with you. You were all I thought about every day and it kind of took over my life.

You should also know that the biggest regret in my life is that I didn’t get to know you. At Richmond I was going through some weird phase where I think I was trying to prove a point, which point I don’t know, or can’t remember. It was important at the time. Anyway. Have a nice life. Hope you get your million pound house.
Bye.


Then just when I thought this was the end of it, 2 weeks later it starts over...


March 4 at 8:31am
i hope "lavashak" isn't the name of a woman. i can't get over you. i still love you. i want to cook for you and take care of you. I love you . hurry up and say it back.

March 8 at 10:48am
I love you more than mangoes.‏
It's true.
Sarah.

March 10 at 12:13am
your face is more beautiful than the first lambs of spring, frolicking in pastures green.
it is true when they say that sarah loves michael.

March 11 at 11:53am
Your eyes are warm and brown like two pots of curry.
Your smile makes me feel warm inside like I’ve just eaten curry.
Basically, you remind me of curry, and I love curry. But I love you more.

March 12 at 9:23am
Your smile is sweeter than the sound of children’s laughter as they lick lollipops made of stardust and moonshine and skip about in meadows, catching butterflies and making daisy chains.

March 13 at 9:51am
Your eyes are like two glowing lumps of radioactive radium, shooting off photons of iridescent light, illuminating my world.

March 14 at 10:08am
Actually, I've got Prince of Persia for my Nintendo. It's a good game
as it goes, have you played it? There's this one really hard level
though that I can't get past. It's not because I'm rubbish or
anything, I asked everyone and they said it was the hardest bit in the
whole game. It might be easier when I get a Wii and you can use the
controller like a sword. But then, I've been thinking lately and maybe
I shouldn't get one, I've got loads of work to do and it will take up
too much of my time. What do you think I should do?

March 15 at 9:33am
Did you know that Elephant & Castle is full of crazy-weirdo people? One time last summer, this guy was walking around in a balaclava and it was about 35 degrees or something. But he was also wearing shorts, so he must've known it was hot. There's a rehab clinic opposite my office and there's this guy who sits gazing out of his window into our office. One time he was walking around naked and started pissing into (what we thought) was the sink, but was actually a cloth in the sink, which he then picked up and started licking.
It's a lovely day, isn't it?

March 16 at 4:26pm
I saw a cloud today which looked like a naan and it reminded me of
you. I miss you.

March 18 at 10:05am
hey. watcha doin? are you ever going to email me back, i just want to know you're alright.

March 20 at 11:13am
Have you ever had a moment of inspiration like in the films where the clouds part and the light comes streaming through? I did yesterday. Thanks for not blocking my email address for these past two weeks of me sending you these pesky emails. I needed to vent.I realise now (finally!) it would never work between us (even if you were interested I mean).
Hope you find peace in yourself. Good day.


God bless America

Michael
~THE EDGE

Natural Game Seminar 2 - NYC

"The ultimate goal of the Edge is that its members achieve theirs. The Edge exists so you can achieve your goal and help others achieve theirs."

Next month I will be holding a Natural Game Seminar featuring some unexposed and talented PUA’s in New York.The Seminar will be FREE, 2 hours long and followed by optional night game. The basis will be my own natural style, so expect some new ideas :-D
Provisional Date is Sat 31th Jan 2009, 7:00 to 9:00pm, New York City, Location TBA.

Rewind to Summer 2006, our first seminar in London. We were the first teachers of natural game operating out of London, UK.

Listening back to the seminar, it was far from perfect: we missed parts out, told our experiences in a rush and even left sentences unfinished. Yet the immediate feedback we got included:

"If you held bootcamps I'd pay for one"
"More charismatic than David DeAngelo"
"Look at the atmosphere you've created"
"I connected with you as soon as you told your Tube experience"
"A brilliant thing you did for the community; altruistic and truly genuine - which is the best one can hope for in life."
"Great seminar guys, + karma for you guys!"
"Who the Fuck are the Edge?" Sheriff, Mystery Method Instructor (typical lol)

Everyone who PM'd me about this should now have received an invitation. If you would like to come please confirm this. If I forgot someone please PM me.

Michael
~THE EDGE